I just had an epiphany.
People just cannot picture themselves in the show.
Even when the script of life puts them on the path to success, fame, fortune, or even great relationships, lucky breaks, opportunity....something really really good.
People just have this surreal feeling that nothing good happens to them, and whatever IS happening cannot possibly be good, because it is happening to THEM.
As if to say: if it's SO good, whey is it available to ME?
I have observed this in others, I confess I have seen this in myself. Self Sabotage? Fear of Failure? I have often contemplated this issue. I thought it was a self image thing. Or a deeply implanted suggestion from childhood by unsupportive or over critical parents.
In sales I've seen people reject great deals, passing them up on the simple objection that 'it looks too good to be true'. Thinking to myself...jeez, I'll try to make you a crappy offer next time with a higher price, less value and lousier service. Why can some people not just accept a GOOD THING at face value for what it is.
Just because 9 bad things came your way are you conditioned that the 10th thing will be bad too?
apply to any scenario....relationships, deals, opportunities, jobs, friends, etc.
Now this morning a lightbulb. While I'm not in the room where the TV is, it's going on. So sometimes I'm watching the people watching the TV. And it's like THEY are the show.
Sort of like a 4th person point of view. the watcher watching the watcher watching the characters....surreal.
But a reality tv show airing made me realize that all these years of watching TV conditions the brain to see life like a TV show also. Maybe that's why people hesitate to jump on a good idea or a good opportunity or a good relationship. Their brain doesn't realize that THIS is happening. THIS is happening NOW. THIS is happening TO ME.
Here and Now. Not there and later and to somebody else.
It's almost like beginning sparring when there's all of this...wait a second, um...do over...oh, I messed that up, let me try that again....
when the mind wants to treat the moment as if it's a replay and rewind deal. Like a video.
Takes a while to reconnect the brain to reaction in the here and now, no hesitation cause this is happening.
So I feel that TV might have programmed us all to never act in the moment, replay the moment afterwards like we would a TV show, plan our reaction and response, and then maybe tomorrow or the next day...or never...to make a move.
Too bad, because:
The girl already went out with another guy, and now she's in a relationship. You snoozed and she thinks your a flake, incapable of commitment, assumes you would hesitate in bed too.
The job offer is gone, they hired somebody else.
The sale is over, they are out of stock and you missed it, now go pay retail
The deal is off the table, you didn't strike while the offer was made, the dealer or salesman or marketing promo is unsure whether you will waffle again, so you don't get the respect that a first run prospect gets.
Turn off that TV for a few days and let your brain adjust to life as it happens. Pick up that penny on the ground, smile back at that girl and don't break eye contact, just walk over smile and say hi.
Don't look at your phone for texts or Facebook messages. That stuff will still be there in 5 minutes.
Grab on to good things that come your way and believe that you deserve MORE good things. It is natural for good things to enter your life because you should have good things.
Law of attraction, yes, but also law of HERE AND NOW IN THE MOMENT.
esoteric ramblings of an introspective thinker. Have a great day.
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